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Are Spiritual People Selfish?

From the day we are born, our parents, family members, teachers, friends, media, etc. are shaping us.

Everything we know and believe to be true, to be good for us, to be who we are is externally inflicted. Our role is to filter the best we can the information we receive and then make the most out of it.

How we do that? Through the choices we make from what we wear, to what we eat, to what subjects we study in school, to the way we behave.

Then the moment comes when we start questioning that information and realise that our filters need reshuffling. Is that internal feeling, the nudge that we cannot get rid of until we address the issues that are misaligned with our true, authentic self. Is that moment when we feel a need to slow down to reflect.

That’s the moment relationships change, some survive and morph, others end. That’s when careers change, when geographic moves happen. To us everything seems natural, even if scary at times, well, most of the time really, but we know we are on the right path due to that sense of peacefulness, of serenity that only comes when we are in the right flow.


The Big Challenge Of Spiritual People


For those watching from the outside, the process might be unsettling. One of the biggest fears is the fear of change, of the unknown and your new behaviour triggers exactly that. Also, you might be affecting them at a time when they are not ready or open for that, hence some might take it personally. That’s their choice and if that’s how they choose to react, then so be it!


There’s nothing to feel sorry or guilty about; your journey is yours and yours alone and that’s something that you should never apologise for.


But what if they start calling you selfish, taking offence in your behaviour, blaming you for ruining the friendship/relationship? As harsh as it may seem, they might need to go or at least put some distance between you.

Maybe your alongside journeys have come to a crossroads. Maybe it’s time for new people to join your journey. Maybe it’s time for you to leave their journey and take responsibility for that.

Thank them for their role, wish them well and move on … If becoming your true, authentic self and your commitment to that outcome means you are selfish, then embrace that. It’s yet another label applied to you externally, like many others that brought you to this point, so acknowledge it and move on as it’s not yours to carry forward.

Take time to reflect and tune in with your feelings. They never fail, trick or trial you!


Spark Your Bloom Today and Everyday!


Mihaela is a Cambridge certified executive coach who works with and advises board members, top-level executives and entrepreneurs seeking to excel in their career. Her client portfolio ranges from prestigious national to large international businesses.Her approach is focused on exploring personal and professional values, understanding aspirations, removing barriers and visualising the path to success. She hosted a top-ranking TV show and published two best-selling books dedicated to career success.

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