From a personal development point of view, the switch between teenage and womanhood is probably one of the best, yet frightening experiences that I have had so far.

Womanhood means discovering a new world and finding your place in it. Responsibilities increase and so do expectations. Not only the expectations of others but the ones you have for yourself, as well. I’m a firm believer that the expectations you set for yourself are by far more important than what society tells you they should be.

Having said that, being only 20, it can be quite challenging to know what I truly want and what I should expect from myself, as a woman, but that only makes womanhood a more exciting time.

There’s another paradox womanhood brought on with it, that I only became aware of recently. As children, we are being told that there are no limits to what we can do. That all it takes is to set your mind to it and you can make it happen. As young adults, we are often told that we should set realistic expectations to avoid disappointment.

I don’t agree with that, and neither should you. There should be no limits to my dreams and goals just because the person next to me doesn’t think that they can go as far as I set out to. In my opinion, disappointment comes from expecting those dreams to happen overnight, which would be a tad childish, wouldn’t you agree?

Womanhood Empowerment Through Choices

However, becoming a woman it empowers me to admit openly that I didn’t always think this way. It took a lot of talks with my mother, reading many books and having personal experiences that allowed me to open up and see things differently.

Not too long ago, I thought, well, I was convinced, that I would start working after University. And hoped that I would have a brilliant idea that would become very successful and I wouldn’t have to work for a corporation. A lot has changed since then. I started university and decided that waiting for another 3 years to work and become more financially independent is too long. Long story short, I am in my first year of Uni, work part time in a job that I love, love, love, help my mother build a business, and pursuing a potential new business idea of my own.

Personal Empowerment Through Meditation

Having grown up in the environment that I have, I have been exposed and introduced to ideas that most of my friends and colleagues haven’t. Which I am very grateful for, as they help me navigate my transition to womanhood easier and place me one step ahead.

I learnt that meditation is a great way to empower yourself. To grow more confident with each session, by becoming more aware of your thoughts and wishes.

I use meditation to stay positive and constantly remind myself of my goals. It only takes a few of minutes of my day, but keeps me present and focused. Through consistent meditation you allow your mind to see clearly what you need and what you need to do to stay focused and make the best of each day.

Life Lessons

Going back to womanhood, personally, being in sync with my needs and being responsible for myself, not just financially, but emotionally as well, is a big part of this transition. I’m aiming to not blame others for my mistakes, but rather learn and grow from them. Blaming others, even though it makes things seem easier, it never allows you to develop and avoid repeating the same mistakes. By blaming others, you brush it off and end up not spending anytime evaluating why that mistake happened or what you can do to prevent it from reoccurring. That’s not to say that you should blame yourself or take on responsibility for someone else’s mistake, but you should always be mindful and think of the ways that you can better yourself. Making that difference is what maturity and true independence is all about.

The Mindset

Overall, my experience with womanhood so far is amazing. But it is like this because I chose to see the positives in my life, seize each opportunity and make the most of each moment.

It all depends on your mindset whether you are truly willing to take on the world or feel safer taking advantage of the last few years of adolescence, cocooned by your parents.

Whatever your choice, start by meditating just 5 minutes a day and really allow your mind and body to sync and focus on bettering yourself. The first step towards womanhood is wanting to become one!

SparkYourBloom Today and Everyday!